Parents, friends, society – how to find the courage to choose your own wedding style
“But you *have* to invite your aunt…”
“No church? That’s not a real wedding.”
“What will people think?”
Sound familiar?
If you’re considering an alternative kind of wedding – maybe even just the two of you – you’ll often face well-meaning doubts. This article helps you stay grounded in your truth. Because your love deserves a setting that truly fits.
Your “why” matters more than the “how”
Many people respond based on their own idea of what a “proper wedding” looks like. But only you know what connects you. If your dream is to marry in silence, in nature, or with just a small circle – follow that feeling.
Expectations often come from old patterns – not your reality
Parents or grandparents often wish for what they experienced themselves. But that doesn’t mean you have to follow suit. Respect their wishes – but follow your heart.
Communication builds understanding
You don’t need to justify your choices – but explaining them can help. An honest conversation, a heartfelt letter, a thoughtful post: when you share why you want to marry your way, many people will understand more than you expect.
A clear “yes” to yourselves is the greatest gift
Choosing your own wedding style is an act of self-love – and love for each other. It marks the beginning of your life together. And what could be more powerful than starting that journey in full alignment with your truth?
You’re allowed to marry quietly, wildly, freely, spiritually – or simply in your own way.
If you’re looking for a path far from convention – but close to your true self – I invite you to visit my page about the Elopement Wedding in Gran Canaria.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ):
1. How do we deal with critical comments from others?
Stay close to your “why.” Critical voices often reflect personal insecurities or traditional thinking. You don’t need to defend yourself. A calm, loving response (“We chose this because it feels right”) speaks louder than any argument.
2. Can we still celebrate later even if we first marry “just the two of us”?
Absolutely! Many couples choose an elopement or intimate ceremony – and celebrate months later with friends and family. You don’t have to choose either/or, you can create both.
3. What if we’re not completely sure yet?
Doubts are normal – especially if you’re planning something unconventional. Ask yourselves honestly: Are we doing this from the heart – or out of fear of expectations? If it feels light, free, and true, that’s usually the right path.
